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		<title>Blind Dates and Writing Mates</title>
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					<description><![CDATA[On Saturday I had the pleasure of attending a get-together in Birmingham for authors and bloggers. It usually takes place once a month, either there or in London and is a fantastic opportunity to meet online friends from the writing...]]></description>
										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>On Saturday I had the pleasure of attending a get-together in Birmingham for authors and bloggers. It usually takes place once a month, either there or in London and is a fantastic opportunity to meet online friends from the writing world. And my enjoyment of this weekend had ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with the fact that I saw Peter Andre at Birmingham New Street station (but that&#8217;s another story&#8230;) <img src="https://s.w.org/images/core/emoji/17.0.2/72x72/1f642.png" alt="🙂" class="wp-smiley" style="height: 1em; max-height: 1em;" /></p>
<p>However it is not without some trepidation &#8211; excitement aside &#8211; that I board my train. Will I recognise everyone from their profile picture? Will their personality be as I expect, from the tweets and Facebook exchanges we have enjoyed? At its basest &#8211; will we get on? It is just like a blind date without the romance!</p>
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<p>Here I am with lovely Phillipa Ashley on the left, author of <a href="https://www.amazon.co.uk/Christmas-Cornish-Caf%C3%A9-romance-everyone-ebook/dp/B01GCJ1CY0/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&amp;ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1477853202&amp;sr=1-1&amp;keywords=christmas+at+the+cornish+cafe">Christmas at the Cornish Cafe</a>. We had known each other for years, but never met. I am glad to say she was just as friendly, sincere and funny as I expected and a walking oracle when it comes to Poldark. On the right is <a href="http://tishylou.blogspot.co.uk/">Tishylou</a>, a fabulous book blogger. I had met her before and &#8211; again &#8211; her true, bubbly personality shone through in person, just like it does on the screen.</p>
<p>This, however, is not always the case. I have met writers I considered lighthearted, who turned out to be quite serious. And vice versa. No bad thing, it just comes as a surprise. Whilst you may feel you &#8216;know&#8217; someone well online, it takes a face-to-face encounter to seal the deal. And it makes me wonder what other writerly folks think of me. Hmm. Perhaps I shouldn&#8217;t mull that over too closely&#8230;!</p>
<p>There have been humorous moments &#8211; humorous in retrospect that is. Some profile thumbnails, particularly on Facebook, are not very clear and I am ashamed to say that more than once I have spent a while talking to one author and eventually realised I have confused them with someone else. Try backing out of that one. And it&#8217;s an instant guilt-trip when someone greets me as an old friend and it takes me a few moments &#8211; panicking! &#8211; to fathom out their face. Perhaps it&#8217;s just as well that most of the parties provide nametags. That would have prevented me from muddling up an agent and editor like I did last year at an awards event. In my defence they were both young and blonde and&#8230; Okay. No excuses really. Especially as one was heavily pregnant. However the editor was lovely when I realised my mistake, and said I could call her anything I wanted <img src="https://s.w.org/images/core/emoji/17.0.2/72x72/1f642.png" alt="🙂" class="wp-smiley" style="height: 1em; max-height: 1em;" /></p>
<p>So yes. Blind dates with writerly mates. No romance but plenty of laughs and discussion. And it is interesting to talk about more than our love of books. As a full-time novelist, I forget sometimes that other writerly peeps also hold-down jobs unrelated directly to the profession. I met one author who is an accountant and a blogger who works in a library and as a teaching assistant.</p>
<p>Plus the networking is great. Members of the writing community are very generous and I feel, after real-life meets, are even more likely to retweet and support each other. Also I&#8217;ve yet to meet up with someone who has appeared nothing at all like I expected and after a meeting I&#8217;d say the online relationship does take on a different  &#8211; a deeper &#8211; dimension. Nothing beats giving someone a real-life hug instead of relying on typing emoticons.</p>
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